SAY NO TO BROKEN HEARTS

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not……..
Okay before you let them use the whole, “but I love you” line, ask yourself, does he really love you? And some of you might be a little hazy on what true love is, and I just happen to know where you can find an example of what true love is. 1 Cor. 13:4 says love is…..
· Patient
· Kind
· Not jealous
· Does not brag
· Not arrogant
· Does not act unbecomingly
· Does not seek its own
· Does not provoke
· Does not hold grudges or keep record of wrongs
· Bears all things
· Hopes all things
· Endures all things
· Never fails
And I’m sorry guys I don’t care how awesome you boy/girl friend is, the only place you will ever find perfect and complete love like this is God. BUT that does not mean no one else loves you, I’m just saying, if your boy/girl friend is continentally acting in the opposite to the things on this list then it is not love. End of discussion.

Am I To Young To Fall In Love?
Well I’m just going to be straight forward with my opinion right here, ok? Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you are too young to fall in love? I am a firm believer in all is fair in love and war, and age is no exception! But I would encourage you to guard your hearts because falling in love is not always as wonderful as its cut out to be. I fell in love regardless of what my friends and family think,, because I know I did. I cant help that it happened it just kinda did with out me realizing what was happening, and I cant deny the fact that it happened and it just go away either. I had to live with the fact that I fell in love with this guy and nothing could ever happen between us because he wasn’t right for me…but did that keep me from loving him? or course not ....like I said its not as wonderful as Hollywood portrays it to be. But people, if you fall in love don’t let people tell you, you are too young or that it’s wrong because its not. And I will also encourage you not to deny your feelings, I did just that and it tore me up on the inside, and did crazy things to me, it was killing me, and in the end you will just end up confused and sad, okay? Trust me been there done that…not fun!!

Is Dating Bad Or A Waste Of Time?
It’s like this…dating is not bad or waste of time. As long as you are dating with healthy boundaries and good intentions. A lot of people date because they feel like they need a boy/girl friend and they feel like they need to fill that place where God is suppose to be. Some people date because they like the drama that come along with it or because they like the attention and need to feel accepted….or, ok I could go on forever! But actually all the reasons I just listed above are wrong. Good reasons to date or for it not to be a waste of time would be, you are seriously looking for a husband or wife and you are ready to consider finding a mate for life. Or if you are still a little young to be settling down for good, group date and just go out for fun, nothing super serious just to get to know the other person or persons. But if you are trying to have a serious relationship and you are not ready to think about the wedding bells then you are just wasting your time….I mean can you really disagree with me? You are pretty mush just asking for a broken heart, getting emotionally scared, drama, confusion, and severely hurt feelings when you go out for the wrong reasons, and in that case I would say dating is bad and a waste of time. Its pretty simple, but yet then again in the world we live in today where little kindergarteners say they are “going out”, now I’m sorry but that right there is wrong, I mean come on guys, have some common sense before you hurt yourselves.

Broken Hearts Are No Fun…..
If you have been hurt in the past by someone and you thought you were going to die… I know exactly how that feels and it stinks, but I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You may be like easy for you to say …actually it wasn’t that easy….it took months and months of me holding on to God by my finger tips of my heart. Some days I still get really depressed and discouraged and I just get that feeling like I want to shrivel up and die. But if you can find a way to cope (that is not harmful to you) you will be a lot better off I can tell you a few ideas but everyone is different and Its not like I have the cure for all your problems or anything…but some things I did were well first of all I had to forgive him and then I spent a lot of time by myself, I called it my “quiet time” away from everything and did things that I had put off during the relationship because I got so rapped up in pleasing him, I never really thought “I think I’m going to paint my nails” or “I think I will read a book” instead I was like “why didn’t he call me”, “is he mad at me”, “what did I do”? I know it sounds kinda stupid but that was reality for the extent of the relationship. And I bet if you look back and you are honest with yourself at some point you did too. So take sometime, paint your nails, go shopping eat chocolate, o and burry anything that reminds you of him in a ten foot hole and cover it with concrete…it worked for me!!!!